Thursday, 2 February 2017

the importance of supporting other women

In my eager anticipation to write and paint for this post I placed the heart on the painted background and eh uhh I got glue all over the heart *facepalm*. Not too sure how I managed to do it but I did and seeing as I decided to paint the night before this post is going up I had no choice but to rolll with it. Some tactile editing skills and the worst of the glue stain has magically disappeared thanks to facetune. I digress, this post is neither about hearts or art therefore I was not going to repaint it again (ps this is an artistic representation of a heart because I am not going to get all sciency in this blogpost either). 

I took inspiration from my friend Chloe to paint this as she is incredible at art and I need to give credit where credit is due, that is what supporting females is all about - building them up and supporting them in the incredibly, amazingness that they all do instead of knocking their confidence down with an unnecessary, snarky comment. Many people say Youtube community is a breading ground of these nasty comments, they're not needed, they're hurtful and I have no idea how people have the time to troll some totally boss people. You need to support the females of the internet (and off the internet too). 

You may say: but Eleanor, what about supporting men as well? Yes, of course, support men as well but in a world where women are still marginalized in many areas, supporting women is a push in the direction of equality; the women's march (I've linked Edie's post about how to take action after the march because it is well worth a read) a few weeks ago was a sign that there is still so much to be done in the fight for equality. 

Esme actually inspired me to do this post and she probably has no idea she did but this tweet popped up on my timeline a few weeks ago and it literally made my day; so simple yet so powerful. Supporting your fave females can undoubtedly build someone's confidence up.  

I was watching Meghan Hughes' video a few weeks ago about reading more book and she mentioned the incredibly popular book Milk and Honey by Rupi Kaur. Despite hearing rave reviews about the book I still haven't managed to buy it yet (but it is on my wishlist on Amazon). One of the poems she read in the video really struck a chord. 

Yes, you should empower women by saying that their hair looks luscious or they look beautiful today but it shouldn't be the first, or the only, thing to say. /i never feel the happiest when people comment about how great I look or how pretty I am because for me they're irrelevant - it's the comments that say how much someone likes my writing that resonate. 

So how you can you support other women, both online and offline?

Tweet a blogpost that you love, repost an art piece that you would love to create and by all means compliment someone on the way they look - you don't know what that persons day was like and it may just change their outlook a lil' bit. Buy from brands that are made by females that aim to help females such as Birdsong, indirectly you are supporting other women. 

In order to do my little bit, I've compiled a list of blogs/youtube channels that are my absolutely fave right now because you need to check them out (this list could be a whole lot longer but I just picked a few faves):
  • withwendy: the channel you need to watch if you have a passion for textiles or making your own clothes. 
  • TollyDollyPosh: an ethical blogger that you will just fall in love with! She's a pretty cool gal. 
  • Thelifeofedie: I could write a whole blogpost about how much I love Edie's blog but I'll make it brief, Edie's aesthetics, posts and photos are so original and they'll keep you going back time and time again. 
  • Dalal (Monochrome Daisies): Dalal is sarcastic, hilarious and writes exquisitely, well worth a read.  
  • Chloe Larkin: Chloe's blog is soo lovely and I could spend a good few hours just scrolling through her posts (her photos are so gorgeousss). 
  • Kristen Leo: is an ethical fashion youtuber and I am absolutely in love with all her videos, I haven't found an ethical youtube channel quite like it; her videos are really easy to watch. 
As I battle temperamental internet, I urge you to get out and compliment someone else's highlight, discuss with them about their amazing outfit choice or tweet your favourite blogger about how much their posts make your day. As females of the internet we are responsible for what we say and do and the world that we want to develop, so don't slate the girl whose blog you secretly love - build up her confidence by saying how much you love her blog, you may just meet your new blogging bud. 

Life shouldn't be a competition in an attempt to build your way up to the top of the working ladder, only to tear the other females around you down. Support other females, you'll feel like a better female and you may find yourself being boosted as well. 

(If you wanted to spread the love and support other women in the comments, send me your favourite blogs, people or youtubers. I will try to check them all out!) 

Love, Eleanor xx
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  1. I totally agree with everything you've said in this post! Some times it's the little things. If someone takes the time to do something so little as compliment my hair, it makes my day and makes me feel great about myself. We've got to spread the love. X

    Kate// itskaterose.com

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    1. Thank you Kate. I definitely agree with you about the little things - it can really change your mood for the day! x

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  2. Yes I love this post! Women empowering women is so important and we need to do it even more, if we put other women down it makes it okay for men to put women down xx
    http://blossomofhope.blogspot.com/

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  3. This is a beautiful post! I am all for girl power and supporting other #girlbosses. I actually might create a post of my favorite girl talents on the internet. There are so many amazing people in the blogging and youtube community and they deserve all the good in their lives and more xxx

    www.ivefoundwaldo.com

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  4. ELEANOR - you are such a beautiful soul. Thank you so much for sharing this: your art, your kind words, poetry. Lots of love <3

    Edie x
    thelifeofedie.com

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    1. Edie thank you!! Lots of love for you as well <3

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  5. Ahh thanks so much for the mention, big fan of the art too...could you pls just draw my biology diagrams for me because I have zero artistic skill. loving the message of this post too :)

    Dalal
    monochromedaisies.blogspot.com

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    1. Haha this doesn't even look like a heart I'm pretty sure but thank you! :)

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  6. The first thing we do think of is "you're pretty" and I think it is important to tell women what other things are great about them! Great post Xx

    http://louiselovesbeauty.blogspot.co.uk/

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    1. I find that its the compliments about school or my writing mean the post! Thank you xx

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  7. I love this! We should totally be building each other up instead of knocking each other down xx

    Sophie's Spot

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    1. Thank you! I definitely think we should :) xx

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  8. LOVE THIS! Social media has engrained in us a competitive side which everyone feels once in a while, and it's so important to realise that it's not a competition. You can make someone else's day just by complimenting them and reminding them just how well they are doing. Let's all be each other's cheerleaders 💖!

    Www.atartanrose.com

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    1. THANK YOU! Definitely, especially with the number of followers you have, views etc. It shouldn't be about that! x

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  9. Love this post; completely agree with everything you've said. On reflecting on my own life and feelings of jealousy sometimes, I feel like girls are kinda brainwashed into feeling like they're in competition with other women from a young age and then you add social media into the mix, and it's not always been easy for me to break that and sit back and say "no, you're being stupid about this."
    I'm going to check all of these blogs out now :)

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  10. I completely agree with this. I try to remember to compliment others but sometimes my shyness gets in the way! I definitely agree that you don't make your way up in life by standing on other people. Or maybe some people do, but if they do they're going to have a Bad Time...!

    It shouldn't be a competition, it should be a collaboration.

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  11. That poem though!!! I love poems and I love this one so much! I think supporting people is so important. Especially women supporting each other. Even though feminism is a thing we still have such a long road to go so why are we putting each other down?! I´m always trying to say something nice to a person to compliment them and I also often fail to acknowledge the inner beauty more than the outer beauty. It´s a thing I´m working on though!
    xx Lisa | Following Lisa

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  12. I love this post, girl - it's really inspiring! It's just so important that we ladies support eachothers' hard work!

    Holly | The Kitty Luxe

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  13. Wow, I absolutely love this post. I had a tear in my eye when I read that lovely poem. I will now go and click on some of the other blogs you recommend! I may be some time .....

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